Grand-parents: how to deal with their "help"!

This topic is very hot for me right now. You see, my parents have been visiting us for two weeks now, and we still have a couple of days left in this adventure. Of course, it has it's advantage to have "babysitters" that sleep in our house every night. I have to admit that my husband and I really enjoyed having our old life back for a couple of days. But while we were enjoying ourselves, the grand-parents were taking over...

I was the youngest in our family, and I'm 35. My mom had me when she was 35, and I now, have an one year old. On that part, we kind of connected. Beside that, a lot has changed in 35 years. The breastfeeding, the formulas, the safety, you name it! I stopped counting after two days how many times my mom would say: "Well! When you were young, I was giving you this... or we were doing that!!!" But, you know what? There is a reason why we don't give this or do that anymore! I just don't know them all!

From the first 5 minutes after I picked up my parents at the airport, I must of "traumatized" them at least a dozen times. I know that because they keep bringing it up: "If you would do this...". Even thought after the first day, I sat down with them and I explained to them our choices and reasons behind everything my husband and I decided, they kept wanted to say their two words. They understood everything, but it was not going to stop them!

I finally came to realized that communication is the key in situations like this. And, of course, being patient can always help! The conversation that I had with them at the beginning of their trip, helped out a lot. Every time they kept going over board with their "advices", I would bring up our conversation, and they would shut up! I think I might of make them understand that we are the parents and we're making the decisions for the best of our baby. They are the grand-parents, they should just enjoy spoiling her... ... and they did!!!